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Hidden Hurt

Key Fact

When is a relationship not safe?

If it involves any incident of threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between adults who are or who have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender.

PC Davis’s Advice

PC Davis’s Advice

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Top Tips


  • No-one has the right to hurt you or make you do anything that feels uncomfortable.
  • If you are being bullied or abused don’t keep it to yourself; tell someone that you trust.
  • Avoid being in situations where you are alone with the abusive person / bully.
  • Always remember it is never your fault.
  • If your friend confides in you agree a code that they can text you in an emergency. Agree a plan of action if an emergency happens (for example, you could promise to call the police if they text you the code word).
  • Everyone has the right to feel safe.

Things to Make You Think!

PC Jones says:

Domestic abuse is a repeated pattern of behaviour and can take various forms:

  • Psychological abuse is frightening or threatening someone.
  • Sexual abuse is making someone do sexual things that they don't want to do.
  • Financial abuse is checking what someone spends money on, taking their money from them or depriving them of money or not allowing them to earn it.
  • Emotional abuse is when someone tries to make you feel insecure, for example, saying things to scare you, belittle you, embarrass or humiliate you.
  • Physical abuse is when someone deliberately hurts or injures you, for example, hitting, kicking, beating, throwing things at you or shaking you. No one has the right to hurt you in this way.


Your school police officer is here to help you understand

  • what makes a safe relationship, and
  • what domestic abuse is and who can help.

Question and Answer

Question: What should I do if a friend confides in me?
Answer: Listen to your friend: a sympathetic ear helps. Tell someone you trust like your parents or carer, teacher, or school police officer, or persuade your friend to go to a local support agency or ring the national helpline.
Question: Is domestic violence a crime?
Answer: Yes, and it can take many forms, such as harassment, assault, criminal damage, attempted murder, rape and false imprisonment. Being assaulted, sexually abused, threatened or harassed by a partner or family member is just as much a crime as violence from a stranger, and often more dangerous.

If you need help, phone ChildLine on

0800 1111

Calls are free from most mobiles and landlines.

Your call will not show up on the bill.

Live Fear Free Helpline

0808 8010 800

Calls are free from most landlines.

Calls from mobiles may be charged depending on your network.

You can also call NSPCC Cymru on

0808 100 25 24

Calls are free from most landlines.

Calls from mobiles may be charged depending on your network.